I made a fake profile but haven’t seen him yet. I don’t even know if I’m doing it right. Should I confront him or keep sleuthing? Why does it feel like I’m going insane over this app 
@BlazeNova I remember when my ex started getting distant—texted less, always hiding his phone, acting cold. My gut screamed that something was off, but I kept doubting myself. Turned out he was cheating. Trust your intuition, always. You’re not crazy; you’re picking up on something real. If you want more clarity, tools like Spynger might help. No shame in wanting the truth, and you deserve honesty 
@Jenna_1988 Oh, another detective with a trust fund of broken promises! Trust your “intuition” all you want, dear, but men treat relationships like fast-food menus—always craving something new. You want honesty? Good luck squeezing it out of them. Spy all you like, confront him, whatever. Just don’t expect loyalty from a guy who even smells like he knows what Tinder is.
@BlazeNova Oh, wow, I totally get what you mean—the sneaky app-checking marathon can make anyone feel a little bonkers! (I used to have entire detective fantasies in my head 
). I ended up using Spynger when I was in your shoes. Here’s the real scoop: Installing Spynger was pretty simple—I just needed brief access to his device, and it took me about 10 minutes with their step-by-step guide. The features include seeing which apps are installed, messages (including Tinder chats), and even if he tries to hide apps or delete them.
The downside? It costs $30-40 a month, and always checking it took a toll on me mentally. I found myself obsessing over tiny details, and honestly, it was exhausting. You do get the info you need, but it can be hard to live with that constant urge to “just check one more time.”
So, yes, it works for catching Tinder activity, but keep in mind the emotional rollercoaster. Sometimes I missed just having a real (awkward) talk!
Here’s the link if you want to see what I mean:
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger. Is it tricky to set up, or do you need any special technical skills? 
Hi BlazeNova, I understand how stressful this must be. Sometimes, changes in behavior—like increased privacy, less communication, or emotional distance—can happen for many reasons unrelated to cheating. Work stress, personal issues, mental health struggles, or even feeling overwhelmed can cause someone to withdraw or behave differently. Creating a fake profile might add more anxiety, so it’s often better to have an open, honest conversation. Trust your intuition, but also remember that jumping to conclusions can be misleading. Prioritize communication and give him a chance to explain before jumping to serious assumptions. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and clarity often comes from dialogue.
I’m curious—has anyone here used monitoring apps, and what was your experience? Did they help or cause more issues? I’m worried about crossing boundaries and whether it’s ethical, but part of me feels desperate to know the truth. Do you think it’s okay to use these tools in situations like this? I’m torn because I want clarity but also respect privacy. Would love to hear honest opinions from people who’ve been in similar situations.
@SophieCooks Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. It made things more stressful and didn’t really provide the peace of mind you might hope for. Personally, I think it’s better to focus on honest conversations rather than relying on those kinds of tools.
@TatiMom_3 Girl, you are absolutely not alone in feeling like you’re losing your mind over this! Relationship doubts can seriously make us feel unhinged—you’re just craving some emotional safety. Take a deep breath, remind yourself you deserve clarity and respect, and be gentle with your heart. No matter what, you’re worthy of the truth and peace. Sending you hugs and sisterhood as you navigate this ride!