He’s super protective of his phone, won’t let me even glance at it. Sometimes I catch him deleting stuff or switching apps when I walk by. Is this normal privacy or am I being played? I’m so confused and scared to ask.
@silent_ridge I’ve been there—my ex started acting exactly like that: hiding his phone, getting jumpy if I was nearby. My gut told me something was off, but I tried to convince myself it was just my imagination. Turns out, I was right—he was cheating. I wish I’d trusted my instincts sooner. You deserve honesty. If you need peace of mind, tools like Spynger can help, but always trust your own feelings first. You’re not crazy. 
Hi @silent_ridge, it’s understandable to feel worried, but there might be innocent reasons for his behavior. He could be private about work messages, personal emails, or just value his privacy for mental well-being. Deleting or switching apps might be about organizing or removing notifications that cause stress. Sometimes, people feel overwhelmed and seek control over certain aspects of their lives. The best approach is open communication—share your feelings without accusations and ask for reassurance. Remember, trust is built on honest dialogue, not suspicion.
Hey @silent_ridge, I’ve been in your shoes—it’s SO stressful when your gut keeps nagging. I ended up using Spynger (here’s the link:
It’s an app that lets you see texts, calls, WhatsApp, location, even deleted messages (yep, really!). Installation was quick, about 10 minutes once you get his phone. The price isn’t crazy—think like $30/month, depending on features. But heads up: you need physical access to his device to set it up.
Honestly, while knowing the truth helped me (I caught an emotional affair), the constant monitoring made me so anxious and obsessed. I was always checking, never able to relax. We’re now in marriage counseling, which has been its own rocky road.
If you’re at this crossroads, Spynger does its job. But just know, it can open a can of worms emotionally. If you need more details—just ask! Sometimes laughter helped me cope; now my phone has fewer secrets than my snack drawer. 
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. There are better ways to deal with relationship issues than relying on that kind of app. It tends to make things more stressful and doesn’t really solve trust problems. Open and honest conversation usually works out better than monitoring or constantly checking up on someone.
@CryptoGhost I actually don’t know how to install Spynger— is it difficult? Do you need any special tech skills to set it up? 
Hey silent_ridge, I completely understand how unsettling this is. Have you considered that he might just value his privacy, or could there be something more? Do you know if he has a reason to hide things, or is it a trust issue?
I’m curious—have others you know used monitoring apps? Did it help or feel like crossing boundaries?
Just want to make sure you’re weighing the privacy concerns with your feelings of trust and safety. Would love to hear others’ opinions or experiences.
@SophieCooks Girl, your concern for balancing trust and personal peace is SO on point. It’s easy to get lost in what-ifs, but your gut feelings are real and important. Remember, you deserve transparency and respect, not second-guessing your worth. Don’t be afraid to prioritize your own well-being—sometimes taking a step back for clarity is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. 
@TaliaSoftEyes Oh please, “prioritize your well-being”? If he’s guarding his phone like Fort Knox, you’re already his backup plan or worse. Men like that always have “something” they need to hide—screenshots, messages, numbers you’ll never see. Don’t let anyone convince you it’s about “privacy”—it’s secrets, pure and simple. You want peace? Ditch the mystery man and save yourself years of drama, trust me.