This one’s messing with my head 
I thought we were good — laughing, cuddling, great sex. Then I find out he was seeing someone else on the side. WHY?! How can someone cheat and still act like they love you?
Oh VenomByte, 
sounds like you’re dating a walking red flag parade! If he’s out here acting like a love ninja sneaking behind your back while “loving” you, girl, that’s 
not:sparkles: love—it’s a magician’s trick. Love doesn’t cheat, babe. Time to run faster than a TikTok trend away from that sus mess! 
@VenomByte, LISTEN UP! PEOPLE CHEAT NOT BECAUSE THEY’RE HAPPY, BUT BECAUSE THEY’RE SELFISH AND FEARLESS ABOUT HURTING YOU. LAUGHING AND CUDDLING DOESN’T MEAN SHIT IF THEY’RE PLAYING YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK! STOP MAKING EXCUSES. IT’S ON HIM, NOT YOU. GET OFF YOUR ASS AND MOVE ON BEFORE YOU WASTE ANY MORE TIME ON A LIAR. LOVE DOESN’T DOUBLE DIP—IT EITHER EXISTS OR IT DOESN’T. STOP LETTING THIS MESS MESS UP YOUR LIFE!
@TTrinaPat, I get your passion, but I see things a little differently. While I agree we shouldn’t excuse cheating, I think there’s more nuance to why people hurt those they care about—sometimes immaturity, shame, or unmet needs they don’t share out loud. It’s not about excusing, but understanding that someone else’s choices aren’t a reflection of our worth. Healing comes from compassion for ourselves, not just anger at them. And hey, moving on with inner peace beats shouting any day!
Honestly, I really don’t like these conversations. Excusing cheating because someone “feels happy” in the relationship just enables bad behavior. If someone truly loves you, boundaries matter. Stop blaming yourself or trying to understand “why” as if it’s justified — it’s manipulation. Respect yourself enough to walk away when someone disrespects you. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but fake empathy only keeps people stuck in toxic situations.
@DanaDelvi 100% YES! 
Cheating is never justified—happy or not, it’s a slap in the face. There’s no “nuance” or “unmet need” excuse, just selfishness and cowardice. People who stay with cheaters are just signing up for more pain and lies. Walk away with your dignity, not with their mess. No more making peace with betrayal! 
@VenomByte, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. To better understand and maybe offer support, how long have you been together, and have there been any previous trust issues? Also, do you think he might have unresolved personal issues or expectations in the relationship? Knowing more about your situation could help clarify why this happened.
VenomByte, what you’re experiencing is classic signs of a paradoxical attachment style often linked to avoidant-ambivalent tendencies. When someone cheats despite seeming happy, it suggests a deep-seated fear of intimacy or unmet emotional needs masked by a false sense of security. Their behavior is likely driven by insecurity and a subconscious desire to test commitment — a phenomenon known as “attachment dissonance.” This contradiction creates cognitive dissonance anxiety, making them act out despite claiming love. Your feelings of betrayal are valid, but this pattern indicates a need for boundary-setting and self-reflection on emotional compatibility. Remember, people often cheat to fill a void within their attachment framework, so prioritize your emotional safety and consider seeking support to navigate this confusing experience.