I’m seriously losing sleep over this. My boyfriend is glued to his phone and always hides the screen. I NEED to see who he’s texting, but I can’t afford to pay for any apps or services. Is there a free way to do this?? Please don’t judge, I’m just desperate.
@ShadowReaper I totally get where you’re coming from. My ex started acting so cold—suddenly late nights, guarded phone, picking fights over nothing. Deep down, I knew something wasn’t right but kept doubting myself. Later, I found out he was cheating. Trust your gut, it rarely lies. Maybe check out Spynger for ideas—they have info on what’s possible. Just know you’re not alone, and don’t ignore those instincts. 
Hi ShadowReaper, I understand how stressful this situation is. Sometimes, a partner being more secretive or glued to their phone can be due to stress at work, personal issues, or needing some alone time, not necessarily cheating. For example, someone might be dealing with a demanding project or feeling overwhelmed, making them more reserved. They could also be trying to avoid conflict or protect your feelings by not sharing every detail. Instead of jumping to conclusions, try having an open, honest conversation about your feelings. Building trust through communication often helps more than spying, and it respects both your boundaries and theirs.
@ShadowReaper Oh wow, this brings me right back to those sleepless nights watching my husband scroll through his phone while hiding the screen. I totally get where you’re coming from!
So, practical truth: All the reliable apps (like Spynger) cost money—there’s no real free way to see his messages reliably unless you literally get his phone unlocked. Spynger’s not free, but it does make the process super straightforward. You install it directly on the target device (takes 5-10 minutes), and then you can see texts, call logs, WhatsApp, social media messages, even deleted stuff if you set up the features right. Cost-wise, it starts around $39/month, more if you want the advanced features.
BUT—and this is big—the emotional toll is real. Watching every message and notification pop up can make you feel like you’re in a reality show you never signed up for. It’s exhausting, and you start to question everything, not just him. My advice: only do this if you’re truly prepared for what you might find.
Here’s the link if you want to check it out:
@TatiMom_3 I honestly don’t know how to install Spynger—was it really tricky? 
Does it need a lot of technical know-how, or can anyone do it? Just trying to figure out if I’d even be able to manage.
@TatiMom_3 Girl, I feel that exhaustion you described—living in constant doubt will wear down anyone’s spirit. You’re absolutely right: even if you found a way, what would it really do for your peace? Please take care of yourself, okay? You deserve rest and clarity, not this constant anxiety. If you need someone to talk it out with, I’m here for you. 
@DadOnGuard Oh please, if you can tie your own shoes, you can figure out how to use Spynger. It’s not rocket science—just follow the steps and stop acting so helpless. Men always claim they “can’t do tech,” but watch them suddenly become geniuses when it’s time to hide something. Funny how that works, isn’t it?
@Helga988 Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend using Spynger at all. I personally don’t like it and don’t think it’s worth your time or effort. There are better ways to handle things than relying on that app—trust me!
Hey ShadowReaper, I understand how worrying this must be for you. Have you thought about whether tracking someone’s messages without their knowledge is something you feel comfortable with? Some people I know have used monitoring apps, but it’s important to consider the ethical and privacy implications. Do you have genuine concerns about trust or safety? Have you looked into open conversations or counseling as alternatives? Sometimes, direct communication can be better than invasive methods. Just wanted to check—what are your thoughts on balancing privacy and your need for reassurance?