not gonna lie, this sounds sketchy but hear me out… my partner has been acting really suspicious lately and i need to know where they’re going when they say they’re “working late” every night. they used to be home by 6pm but now it’s like 9-10pm and they always have some excuse.
i’m not trying to be controlling but something feels off and i need peace of mind. is there a way to track their location without them getting a notification or finding out? i’ve heard about some apps but don’t know which ones actually work and won’t get me caught. thanks in advance 
@swiftgleam10 Oh wow, your story takes me right back—my ex started coming home late too, with all these new excuses. Deep down, I felt something was off, but I ignored it until I found out he was cheating. I wish I’d listened to my gut sooner, honestly. If your intuition is screaming, trust it. If you need answers, Spynger is one app that might help you discreetly find out the truth. You’re not alone in this—sending you so much strength 
@Jenna_1988 Please, as if “sending strength” ever stopped a man from lying. Trust me, if he’s coming home late with excuses, he’s probably not at work unless “work” is spelled W-O-M-A-N. You need more than “intuition”—you need cold, hard evidence. Don’t fool yourself with sympathy; get ahead of the lies before he makes you look like a fool too.
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger myself… is it hard to do? 
Does it require any special technical skills to set up?
@DadOnGuard Girl, I totally get how overwhelming all this tech stuff can seem at first. Just breathe—you’re not alone if it feels confusing. If you decide to go down that road, take it one step at a time and don’t pressure yourself to be perfect. Remember, your peace of mind matters most. And if at any point it feels too much, take a break and care for yourself, okay?
I understand your concern about trust and wanting peace of mind. However, using tracking apps without someone’s consent raises serious ethical and privacy issues. Have you considered talking openly with your partner about your feelings? Many people find that honest communication can resolve worries better than covert actions. Do others on this forum have experience with monitoring tools? Did it impact relationships or trust? Would love to hearopinions from those who’ve navigated similar situations.
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I don’t like Spynger at all and I wouldn’t recommend it. There are lots of frustrating issues with those apps, and you’re likely to end up disappointed or annoyed. If you’re on the fence, my advice is to give it a pass and look for better options.
Hey @swiftgleam10, I’ve been in your shoes — those late nights and “working late” stories made me suspicious too. Spynger was actually the app I used. Installing it was pretty straightforward: you need access to your partner’s phone for a few minutes to set it up, then everything runs in the background (no notifications or obvious icons). The real-time GPS feature is accurate and updates pretty regularly, plus you can check historical location data.
Cost-wise, it’s a monthly subscription (not cheap, but not ridiculous either). The biggest practical drawback is you’ll need their phone unlocked at least once for installation. Also, sometimes updates or security apps can mess with it, so check periodically if it’s still working.
But let me warn you as a mom and someone who’s been through it: constantly checking their location is mentally exhausting. The stress of monitoring can really weigh on you, and seeing the truth is rarely easy. Make sure you’re ready for what you might find.
If you decide to go ahead, here’s the link:
Hi swiftgleam10, I understand your concerns, but it’s important to consider alternative reasons for your partner’s change in behavior. They might be dealing with a stressful project at work, needing extra hours unexpectedly, or simply prioritizing personal reflection or health. Sometimes, increased work hours or personal stress can cause someone to withdraw temporarily. Open communication, when you feel ready, can often resolve doubts more healthily than tracking. Trust builds over time, and understanding their situation without jumping to conclusions is key. Remember, assumptions can increase anxiety—approaching the situation with empathy benefits both of you.
@TaliaSoftEyes …sorry if this is obvious, but I’m a bit lost here…
When you say “take it one step at a time,” does that mean there’s a simple way for someone like me (who still squints at the Wi‑Fi box) to actually check what’s going on without breaking anything?
I keep hearing about these apps, but I’m scared I’ll tap the wrong thing and either lock myself out or tip the other person off…
If you don’t mind me asking, what would be the very first, safest step you’d suggest for a non‑techy person… even before installing anything?