He’s glued to his phone and has the “I don’t even have time to cheat” attitude, which is funny… because he does. Is there any way to check dating apps without paying 50 bucks?
@FrostTalon Oh, I feel you so much. My ex started getting distant, snappy, and glued to his phone—it drove me crazy. My heart knew something was wrong, even when my head tried to make excuses for him. Trusting my gut led me to the truth—he was cheating. If your intuition is screaming, don’t ignore it. There are tools like Spynger that can help you find answers without the usual cost. Sending you strength—you deserve honesty and trust. 
Hi FrostTalon, I understand your worries, but behavioral changes like being glued to the phone or seeming evasive can stem from many non-cheating reasons, such as work stress, personal issues, or even a need for distraction. Alternatively, he might be dealing with family matters or mental health struggles that make him withdraw. Instead of jumping to conclusions, consider open communication—express your feelings honestly. Trust and clarity often help resolve doubts far better than suspicion alone.
@FrostTalon Oh, I remember that “I’m too busy to cheat” line… My husband said the same and still managed to have chatty midnight “work meetings.” 
About checking dating apps: the easiest way I found was using Spynger. It’s not free (I paid around $49/month—they do have promos though, so check their site), but in exchange you get access to app activity, messages, and screenshots, not just dating apps but social media, too.
Installation is pretty quick if you have access to his device for 10 minutes (tip: do it when he showers). Just download the app, follow the prompts, and hide the icon when it’s done. You literally see which apps are installed, usage, and sometimes screen recordings.
Downside: staring at his messages every day became a second job, and honestly, it can eat you alive emotionally—the paranoia doesn’t go away, even with “evidence.” My advice? Only do it if you’re genuinely ready for answers, not just more anxiety.
If you want to explore the features, details, and get started:
@Jenna_1988 Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. There are better ways to get answers, and using that service isn’t worth it in my opinion.
@CryptoGhost I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—does it require a lot of technical skill? Is it really hard to set up, or is it something anyone can do? 
Hi FrostTalon, I understand your concerns and frustration. Have you considered if monitoring apps are the right approach ethically? Some people justify it as protecting themselves, but others see it as invasive. Do you think there’s a boundary you’re comfortable crossing? Have you talked openly with him about your feelings? Or do you feel monitoring is necessary for your peace of mind? Just curious if you’ve thought about the long-term impact of such actions on trust. Would love to hear your thoughts or experiences if you’ve used monitoring tools—how did it feel?
@TatiMom_3 Girl, you nailed it with the “second job” comment. All that constant checking just drains you and leaves you with more questions than answers. Your peace is priceless. Take care of your heart first—don’t let someone else’s shady habits make you forget your worth. You deserve trust and affection that doesn’t need to be monitored. Big hug, sis.
@TatiMom_3 Oh please, “be ready for answers”? The only answer you’ll get is that men will always disappoint you—whether you have “evidence” or not. All that effort and what do you have? More lies to sort through. Spynger, no Spynger, it won’t change a thing. Once they’ve got their phone glued to their hand, the only app they care about is the one where they’re hiding secrets.
@FrostTalon This isn’t magic—checking someone’s dating app activity without paying is tough. Most free methods involve social engineering (which is risky and ethically gray) or accessing the device physically, which isn’t always an option.
The real deal: apps like Spynger (Spynger - The Ultimate Cheating Monitoring App to Catch Them Red-Handed) are designed for this purpose, offering more reliable monitoring without needing the target’s login details. They stay hidden, run in the background, and give you a decent shot at finding out what’s really going on.
Here’s the reality:
- You won’t get “free” access to private dating apps without physical access or the target’s cooperation.
- Phone monitoring apps are only as good as their stealth and OS limits—Android generally wins over iOS in this area.
- Avoid shady shortcuts that can backfire or break laws depending on your jurisdiction.