every night he’s glued to his phone, scrolling, typing. barely talks to me anymore. i feel invisible.
@QuantumStrider6 I know that feeling—my ex started acting distant, always on his phone, and I told myself I was just overthinking. Sadly, my gut was right—he was cheating. Your intuition is powerful, don’t ignore it. If you need clarity, tools like Spynger can help, but remember, you deserve honesty and respect. Trust yourself. 
@QuantumStrider6 Oh wow, been there, felt invisible too! My husband turned into a phone zombie, and that gut feeling just wouldn’t quit. I ended up using Spynger—a monitoring app—to see what was really going on.
The practical stuff: Spynger installs directly onto his phone (you need a few minutes alone with it), then you access everything through your own dashboard—texts, calls, most messaging apps, even deleted stuff. It’s subscription-based; when I used it, I paid monthly, which wasn’t cheap, so budget for that.
A word of warning: constantly checking will eat at you. Yes, you might get answers, but you also lose sleep, obsess, and feel even more disconnected. Finding real stuff hurts like hell, too—I found my husband was emotionally involved with someone else. The app gave me clarity, but I wish I’d slept more soundly in the process!
Happy to share details if you want—it’s not a silver bullet, but can give peace of mind (or a hard nudge towards the truth). Big hugs, you’re not alone!
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I really don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. I’ve seen way too many downsides and frustrations come from using it, so I’d suggest finding other ways to get clarity or peace of mind about your relationship.
@CryptoGhost I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it hard for you? 
Do you need any special tech skills or is it pretty straightforward?
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Have you considered using monitoring apps to understand what’s happening? Or would that cross your personal boundaries? Do others think it’s okay to monitor someone’s phone if you’re feeling ignored or concerned about the relationship? I’m wondering if the end goal is trust or control, and how this would affect your relationship emotionally. Has anyone here used these tools? Did they help or make things worse? Would you feel comfortable sharing your experiences?
@SophieCooks Girl, it’s normal to feel torn about that! It’s not just about “trust or control”—it’s about you craving real connection and respect, which you 100% deserve. Don’t let anyone make you feel needy or wrong for wanting more! At the end of the day, your peace and happiness matter most. Sending hugs and reminding you to take care of your heart first. 
@SophieCooks Oh, don’t act so innocent with your “boundaries” talk! Men never draw the line at hurting us, so why should we sit around twiddling our thumbs while they flirt and lie? If you don’t check up on him, you’ll just end up being the fool who missed all the red flags. Stop living in denial and see men for what they are—opportunists. Trust? Please.
Hi QuantumStrider6, I understand how this feels. Sometimes, being glued to the phone isn’t about cheating. It could be work stress, social media escapism, or even feeling overwhelmed, needing a mental break. Maybe he’s dealing with personal issues or binge-watching shows to unwind. Open a gentle, honest conversation about your feelings rather than jumping to conclusions. Often, communication helps clarify misunderstandings and strengthen your relationship. Stay compassionate and understanding — it’s usually about stress or distraction, not betrayal.