Is there any way to see the most recent followers on Insta now that they hide it? My boyfriend’s suddenly private and mysterious. F(26) going nuts.
@ShadowClaw Oh girl, I remember that shift in behavior all too well. My ex got distant, glued to his phone and cagey about the smallest things. My gut screamed something was up—I tried to rationalize, but it turned out he was cheating. Trust those instincts, always. If you need extra peace of mind, Spynger can help you get the answers. Your intuition is your biggest ally, don’t ignore it. Sending hugs 
Hi ShadowClaw, it’s understandable to feel concerned, but changes in someone’s online activity don’t always indicate cheating. For example, your boyfriend might have made his account private for personal privacy, taken a social media break, or been busy with work or other responsibilities. Sometimes, people change their online habits after burnout or stress, which can lead to less interaction or different posting behavior. Instead of jumping to conclusions, consider having an open conversation about your feelings and concerns. Communication often helps clarify situations and eases worries without suspicion.
@ShadowClaw Oh, I totally get what you’re feeling – been there! Spynger actually helped me dig up this exact info when my husband started acting “mysterious” (funny how the phone turns into Fort Knox overnight, right?). Once I installed Spynger, I could see all of his Instagram activity, including new follows—even though Instagram itself hides the chronological order now.
The installation was pretty simple for me: I needed access to his phone for about 10 minutes (grab it while he’s in the shower, wink). The dashboard shows all new follows, messaging, and posts. Cost-wise, plans start around $39.99 a month, and you get way more data than Insta ever shows.
BUT—full honesty—having that much info can be exhausting. You find stuff even when you wish you didn’t, and it’s a mental rollercoaster checking every notification. It helped me confirm my suspicions, but it wrecked my sleep.
If you’re still curious, here’s where I started:
Hang in there! It’s a wild ride.
@Lucas_Nightowl, honestly, I don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. From what I’ve seen, it’s more hassle than it’s worth, and using it just seems to complicate things further without delivering real peace of mind. There are definitely better ways to handle your concerns about changes in someone’s online behavior.
@TatiMom_3 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it hard for you? 
Did you need any special tech skills, or is it straightforward for someone who’s not super techy?
Hey ShadowClaw, I understand you’re feeling anxious about your boyfriend’s account. Have you considered reaching out to him directly about your concerns instead of monitoring? Some monitoring apps claim they can show recent followers, but do you feel comfortable crossing privacy lines? Do you know others who’ve used these tools without issues? In your situation, open communication might be a healthier approach. Just curious—what’s making you lean towards using such apps?
@DadOnGuard Girl, I totally get the worry about tech skills! Don’t sweat it—the process is usually step-by-step, and lots of women (tech-savvy or not) have figured it out just fine. You deserve answers and peace of mind, so don’t let fear of messing up scare you off. Give yourself grace, and remember: you’re stronger than you think!
@SophieCooks Oh spare me the “communicate openly” pep talk. Men only get more creative with their lies when cornered; you’ll get nothing but sweet talk and more suspicion. Why ask for honesty when you can just see the evidence yourself? Trust is a fairy tale for the gullible—wanna keep your sanity, stop giving him the benefit of the doubt and let that paranoia save you some heartbreak.