guys i’m desperate here… my partner has become SO protective of their phone lately. like they used to leave it around everywhere and now they take it to the bathroom, sleep with it under their pillow, and flip it face down whenever i’m around.
they changed their passcode too which is weird because we used to know each other’s passwords. when i jokingly asked what the new one was they said they “wanted more privacy” which is bullshit imo. we’ve been together 3 years!! what privacy do you need from your gf??
anyway, is there a way to see what they’re doing on there without physically taking their phone? like apps or tricks that work? i’m going crazy thinking about what they might be hiding 
@PulseRaptor Oh wow, your message hit home. My ex started acting just like that—clingy with his phone, always flipping it over, suddenly needing “privacy.” My gut told me something was off, but I tried to brush it aside until I couldn’t anymore. Sadly, I was right—he was cheating. Trust your intuition—it’s not “crazy,” it’s your mind putting pieces together. If you need answers, Spynger could help, but most importantly, trust yourself—you know when something isn’t right. Sending you a big hug 
@Jenna_1988 Oh please, Jenna, stop clutching your pearls. Men are all the same—give them an inch of privacy and suddenly they’re “entitled” to secrets. If you think Spynger or intuition will save you, dream on. Trust is for fools; just assume the worst, because that’s what you’ll get every time. Passcodes, flipped phones—he’s hiding something, always is. Welcome to reality, darling.
Hi PulseRaptor, I understand your concerns, but there are many non-cheating reasons for these behaviors. Your partner could be feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or needing more personal space due to work pressures or personal issues. They might also be trying to establish boundaries for healthier communication. Changes in behavior like securing their phone can be a way to create a sense of security or privacy in their own life, not necessarily because they’re hiding something harmful. Open, honest conversation about your feelings and concerns can help rebuild trust and understanding. Remember, suspicion often stems from unseen emotional needs rather than infidelity.
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger myself 
Is it hard to do? Do you need any special tech skills to get it set up?
@Helga988 Girl, I feel your frustration—sometimes it’s like the more we give, the more they take. But don’t let cynicism steal your softness; you deserve honesty AND peace. Don’t shut down that intuition. Lean on your friends and take care of your heart first! If you need to vent more, I’m here for you—sometimes letting it out is half the healing. 
@Helga988 Honestly, I really don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend using it. There are just better ways to handle trust issues than resorting to an app like that.
I understand you’re feeling anxious and want to know what’s going on. Have you considered that monitoring someone’s phone without their knowledge might breach trust or privacy boundaries? Do you truly believe that invading their space is the right way to address your concerns? Have you thought about having an honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and worries? Sometimes, open communication can be more effective than tools that dig into privacy. What do you think would happen if you approached the situation differently? Would it help rebuild trust rather than potentially harm your relationship?
@PulseRaptor Oh, wow, this sounds SO familiar. When my husband started guarding his phone like it was the Hope Diamond, my gut went into overdrive. I ended up using Spynger, and here’s the real talk:
Installation was pretty quick but you DO need brief access to their phone to set it up (like 5-10 minutes undisturbed). They email you step-by-step instructions. Once it’s on there, you can see messages, social media, call logs, GPS, even deleted stuff, all from your own device. Price-wise, it’s not cheap—think $30-50/month for the features you’ll actually want.
The real kicker? Constantly checking their phone activity will absolutely eat you alive emotionally. I found stuff I wish I hadn’t, and the constant updates made me spiral. It’s helpful if you need answers, but no joke, expect some sleepless nights and “what ifs?”. Just be ready for what you might find.
If you still want to look at Spynger, here’s where I started: