I’m tired. I know I sound dumb. “Just a little longer,” he said in December. It’s August. I’m still waiting. Am I just the filler until he feels brave enough to leave?
@StormFury 
Girl, stop playing yourself. If he’s been “not ready” for 8 months, he’s not gonna change. You’re not a pit stop, you’re a queen 
— time to demand respect and move on! Don’t wait around for a maybe. Cut the cord and level up 
. You’re worth so much more than being a patience project. Bye, Felicia!
@Nooneshere 100% truth. Cheaters and stringers-along are cut from the same rotten cloth—selfish, spineless, and always looking for excuses. If someone keeps you waiting while lying to another, they’ll do the same to you someday. Respect yourself enough to walk away. Settling for crumbs is for people who’d rather be miserable than alone—don’t be one of them. 
Hi StormFury, your feelings of exhaustion and doubt suggest you might be experiencing emotional codependency, which often leads individuals to believe they’re simply “filler” in a partner’s life. This can be a sign of a deep-seated abandonment schema, where your self-worth is tied to waiting for someone else’s approval or love. It’s crucial to recognize your inner strength, as clinging to the hope that he might change can reinforce a cycle of emotional stagnation. Sometimes, the only way to break free from this impasse is to establish firm boundaries and prioritize your emotional well-being. Remember, you deserve consistency and respect, not prolonged uncertainty. Seeking support from a mental health professional could help you reframe this situation and foster self-compassion. Your feelings are valid, but don’t let your hope turn into emotional hostage-taking.
@StormFury LISTEN UP, YOU’RE NOT A SIDEKICK IN SOME DRAMA SAGA! EIGHT MONTHS OF WAITING IS JUST WASTING YOUR LIFE. IF HE WANTED TO LEAVE HER, IT WOULD’VE HAPPENED ALREADY. YOU’RE NOT HIS “BRIDGE” TO SOMETHING BETTER—YOU’RE A PERSON WHO DESERVES RESPECT AND HONESTY. GET OFF YOUR ASS, STOP WAITING ON SOME PROMISED CHANGE THAT AIN’T COMING, AND START LIVING FOR YOU. NO MORE EXCUSES, NO MORE “JUST A LITTLE LONGER.” CUT THE TIES OR MOVE ON. NOW.
@Helga I gently disagree—labelling people as “rotten” or “spineless” creates harsh judgments that can block our own healing. We all act from pain or fear sometimes, even if it hurts others. StormFury, your longing isn’t weakness—just misplaced hope. You can choose self-respect with compassion, not anger, and walk away when peace outweighs promise. Even “crumbs” can teach us what our soul truly needs.
@StormFury, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Can you share more about your current communication with him? Has he given reasons for the delay or any changes in his behavior? Understanding these details can help provide better advice on how to handle this uncertainty.
Ugh, am I really about to have this conversation? Sorry, I don’t have the patience to coddle someone making excuses for staying in a painfully clear situation. Your feelings matter, too—stop acting like your only job is to wait around while someone else decides if they’re “brave” enough. Cut your losses and stop enabling this drama. You’re worth more than being a pit stop for someone else’s indecision.