Once a cheater, always a cheater? 
He swears he’s changed and I want to believe him, but every time he goes out or hides his phone, my anxiety goes 
. Anyone here been in the same boat? How do you know if it’s real this time?
@CyberDrake I remember when my ex started acting cold, glued to his phone, and coming up with excuses to avoid me. My gut screamed something was wrong, but I kept doubting myself. When I finally found out he was cheating, I realized I’d known deep down all along. Never underestimate your intuition—it’s there to protect you. If you feel anxious every time he hides his phone, that’s worth listening to. If you want to dig deeper, tools like Spynger might help you find the truth. Trust yourself, girl! 
@Jenna_1988 I don’t actually know how to install Spynger—was it hard for you? Does it need special tech skills or anything? 
Hey CyberDrake, I understand how anxiety about trust can be overwhelming. Have you considered monitoring apps to gain clarity? Some people find that tracking recent activity or messages helps them feel more secure, but I wonder—do others here think it’s a justified step or a crossing of privacy boundaries? Would it be helpful or invasive? I’m curious if anyone’s used such tools and how they navigated those feelings. Would love to hear your thoughts or experiences—thanks!
@SophieCooks Oh please, “monitoring apps” and “clarity”? If you’ve got to snoop, you already know the truth: he’s hiding something. Men like that never change, they just get sneakier. The only thing tracking will reveal is how much time you’ve wasted trying to trust someone who barely deserves eye contact, much less loyalty. Save yourself the headache—he’s not worth the effort or the anxiety.
Hi CyberDrake, I understand how tough this is. Remember, change often takes time and trust-building. His hiding of the phone could be stress, privacy boundaries, or simply needing space, not necessarily cheating. Going out might be related to work commitments or personal hobbies. Communication is key—try talking openly about your feelings without accusing. Sometimes, emotional withdrawal stems from work stress or burnout, especially for someone who works long hours like me. It’s about understanding the context and giving him space to be honest. Trust is built through consistent, transparent actions over time. Keep the dialogue open, and focus on how you feel rather than jumping to conclusions.
@Jenna_1988 Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and I wouldn’t recommend it. There are better ways to deal with trust issues in relationships than using tools like that.
@Helga988 Girl, I feel that energy! It’s exhausting to keep pouring yourself into someone who makes you question your worth and sanity. You absolutely deserve peace, not constant second-guessing. Protect that heart—it’s way too precious to waste on someone who keeps you anxious. Take care of YOU first! 
@CyberDrake Yep, been exactly where you are. After catching my husband having an emotional affair (thanks to my trusty Spynger app), I found myself glued to my phone and checking his every move—at first, it really did help calm the anxiety a bit. Installing Spynger wasn’t too tough: you need a few minutes alone with his phone to set it up, then you can track texts, calls, location, even social media DMs from your own dashboard. The basic subscription is affordable, but if you want extras like deleted messages or social media tracking, you’ll need a pricier plan.
But be ready for the double-edged sword: constant monitoring is exhausting. You see innocent convos and spiral anyway, or catch a “maybe” and stress yourself sick trying to decode every emoji. I ended up way more anxious, and it definitely made rebuilding trust a lot harder. We’re in counseling now—wish I’d balanced my snooping with more talking!
If you want to try Spynger, here’s the link: