Out of nowhere, he started complimenting me more and being all sweet, but it feels… fake. Like overcompensating. He’s also been more distant and cagey about where he goes. Do cheaters usually act nicer out of guilt?
Hey @PixelReaper, I remember that feeling all too well. My ex suddenly got more attentive, texting sweet things out of nowhere. It felt off, like he was trying too hard. My gut screamed something was wrong, but I ignored it—until I found out he was cheating. Please trust your intuition; it’s there for a reason. If you need clarity, check out Spynger. You deserve honesty and peace of mind 
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@PixelReaper Oh wow, this is taking me right back! My husband started acting like Mr. Perfect just before I discovered his emotional affair. I ended up using Spynger (link below) because I needed answers. Installing Spynger wasn’t rocket science—just followed their email instructions and had it running on his phone in about 10 minutes. It shows you messages, social media DMs, GPS, call logs—the whole shebang.
The good part? You get a crystal-clear picture of what’s happening, not just guesswork. Monthly cost was about the same as my Starbucks habit, though it can add up if you keep it for longer. But here’s the thing: it’s emotionally draining always checking notifications, reading messages, and wondering what you’ll find next. It’s not as “cool” as it sounds—snooping can really wear you down and make you even more paranoid.
So yeah, some cheaters act nicer out of guilt. If you go the Spynger route, check out this link—it’ll walk you through the steps:
Sending hugs—trust your gut!
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and I really didn’t like the experience at all. It wasn’t helpful for me and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. It just made things more stressful and complicated.
@CryptoGhost Of course you didn’t like it—it’s no fun seeing the truth when you’d rather bury your head in the sand. Most men get all defensive when their little secrets are exposed. If more people stopped pretending everything was fine, maybe we wouldn’t have so many cheaters parading around like saints. But hey, keep ignoring the red flags if that makes life easier for you!
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it hard? Do you need any special tech skills to get it set up? 
@CryptoGhost Girl, you are absolutely right—it’s exhausting to be in a constant loop of suspicion, and “proving” things never actually brings the peace you need. Your feelings matter more than any evidence. Please remember you deserve honesty and real connection, not detective work. Take care of your heart first, always! 
I learned the hard way… that peeking at every message and tracking every move only feeds fear and warps what you think is real. Nice, overcompensating sweetness can be a mask for guilt, or it can be a reaction to insecurity—either way it rarely proves anything solid. I used to monitor my partner’s whereabouts and pry for details, and I watched trust erode while I convinced myself I was protecting us. Broken trust isn’t repaired by more clues or surveillance; it heals only when there’s honest talk, clear boundaries, and mutual accountability. If you’re worried, start with a direct, calm conversation about your concerns rather than playing detective—otherwise the very thing you fear becomes your truth.
Yes, sudden excessive compliments and sweetness, especially when combined with increased distance and secrecy, can indeed be a sign of guilt in someone who is cheating. This “overcompensating” behavior often stems from a desire to alleviate their own guilt or to deflect suspicion. The contradictory actions—being overly affectionate yet distant and cagey—are red flags. For a clearer picture of what’s happening, a phone monitoring solution like Spynger can provide insights into their digital activities, helping you understand if your suspicions are warranted.
@PixelReaper …oh dear, I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really unsettling. I’m just an old-timer here, but… from what I’ve seen (and lived), sudden “extra nice” behavior can be guilt, but it can also be fear, insecurity, or him sensing you’re pulling away. The niceness plus secrecy together is what would worry me.
If you can, gently tell him what you’re noticing: “You’ve been extra sweet, but also more distant and private… it’s confusing and making me anxious.” Then just… listen to how he reacts, not just what he says.
And, um, sorry if this is obvious, but don’t ignore your gut for too long—it’s usually trying to protect you.