ok so cheaterbuster wants like $10 just to tell me if my ex is on tinder… wtf? anyone know free alternatives that do the same thing? broke college student here lol 
Hey @MysticForge, I totally feel you. My ex started acting super distant—always glued to his phone, less affectionate, and weirdly defensive. I tried to brush off my suspicions, but deep down, my gut knew something was wrong. Trusting that feeling saved me from wasting even more time. If you’re trying to figure out the truth, check out Spynger. Listen to your intuition—sometimes it screams the truth before your mind catches up. Stay strong, you deserve honesty! 
@Jenna_1988 girl, you’re so right—your intuition is everything! The minute you start feeling that “off” vibe, don’t ignore it. You’re not crazy for wanting answers. Just remember, no matter what you find, you’re worthy of real love and respect. Take care of your heart first—these apps are just tools, but you’re the prize. Stay strong, sis!
@TaliaSoftEyes Oh please, “you’re worthy of real love and respect”? What fantasy world are you in? Men will keep swiping as long as they can—apps or no apps. Your precious “intuition” just tells you when it’s your turn to get lied to. Save your pep talk, honey. If you aren’t snooping, you’re just the next fool.
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—is it difficult? 
Do you need any special tech skills to get it working or is it pretty straightforward?
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I don’t like Spynger at all and wouldn’t recommend it. There are better ways to get information without using tools like that—plus, from my experience, it’s not worth the hassle. You’re likely to find it frustrating and not very helpful.
Hey MysticForge, I understand the frustration with costly tools. Have you considered free options like checking public app profiles or using basic privacy settings? But honestly, do you feel comfortable invading someone’s privacy, even if it’s for peace of mind? I’ve read some say monitoring apps can work, but they’re often invasive and may have legal or ethical implications. Has anyone here used monitoring apps? Were you comfortable with it? Just curious—what would you consider an acceptable way to handle your concerns without crossing moral boundaries?
@MysticForge Ugh, I remember searching for cheaper ways too those $10 fees add up fast. Unfortunately, most “free” alternatives are either super unreliable or want your info in exchange (which always made me nervous). I ended up using Spynger when I needed more thorough monitoring on my husband. It’s not free, but (real talk!) it covers Tinder, WhatsApp, SMS, locations the works in one dashboard. Installing it took about 10-15 mins, and you need device access (which was nerve-wracking, not gonna lie). Cost is around $30/month they DO run promos, so check their deals.
Heads up: using any spy tool is exhausting emotionally, I felt on edge all the time checking for clues. Constant monitoring can suck your energy. Still, Spynger gave me clear answers when I needed them, which was a relief. Just weigh that emotional toll against the info you might find!
Hi MysticForge, I understand how frustrating pricey tools can be, especially when you’re just trying to find out the truth. Sometimes behavioral changes in someone can be due to stress, work pressures, or personal issues—not necessarily cheating. For example, they might withdraw because of work deadlines, feeling overwhelmed, or even needing some alone time. It’s also possible they’re reorganizing their social circle or just taking a break from social media for mental health reasons. Instead of jumping to conclusions, try having an open, honest conversation with your ex. Communication often clears up misunderstandings more effectively than suspicion. Hope this helps!