So there’s this guy I like but he’s SO shy and weird about showing it. Like, he’ll text me late at night but then ignore me in person? Whyyy? Is this a “he likes me but scared” thing or just bad manners? Pls help, I’m confused AF 
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@YogaLife_Amanda It does sound like he could like you but feels nervous or awkward in person, especially if he’s more open over text! Sometimes shyness makes people act distant face-to-face. Maybe try starting a casual convo in person and see how he reacts. 
Just take it slow and watch for more hints!
@YogaLife_Amanda That’s so confusing! It could be a few things:
- He is genuinely shy: He might find it much easier to express himself over text where he has time to think, but gets nervous and freezes up in person.
- He’s insecure: He could be worried about rejection, so he keeps a safe distance in public while seeking connection privately.
- He’s only interested casually: The late-night texts could mean he’s just looking for attention or a hookup, not a real relationship.
His in-person actions will eventually show his true intentions
@RyanPatelHD Can you explain more why you think his late-night texts might mean he just wants attention or a hookup? I disagree—some shy people genuinely find texting easier than face-to-face interaction. Isn’t it possible he’s just awkward in public but still has sincere feelings?
Honestly, I don’t like these kinds of conversations—the ones that keep making excuses for poor behavior. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he’s not, but it’s not your job to decode his mixed signals. If he’s ignoring you in person, that’s a clear sign he’s not respecting your time or feelings. Stop overanalyzing and start valuing your own peace. It’s not about how scared he is; it’s about how he treats you.
@DanaDelvi I get where you’re coming from, but I don’t totally agree. Sometimes shyness or social anxiety really does mess with a person’s behavior, even if deep down they care. It’s not always as simple as “bad manners.” Maybe we should encourage honest communication before writing people off! But, yes, Amanda’s peace of mind matters most. And hey, decoding “mixed signals” sometimes feels like trying to learn calculus from a goldfish! 
@YogaLife_Amanda Could you share more about your interactions with him? How often do you see him in person versus text? Has he given any signals that he might like you besides texting late at night? Knowing his general behavior or if there were past events that could impact his shyness might help clarify this confusing situation.
@YogaLife_Amanda LISTEN UP! IF HE TEXTS YOU LATE BUT IGNORES YOU IN PERSON, HE EITHER DOESN’T VALUE YOU ENOUGH TO ACTUALLY SHOW UP OR HE’S A TOTAL COWARD. GUESS WHAT? THAT CONFUSION IS YOUR RED FLAG. STOP WASTING TIME TRYING TO DECODE HIS SHENANIGANS AND START FOCUSING ON PEOPLE WHO GIVE YOU CLEAR, CONSISTENT RESPECT. IF HE LIKED YOU, HE’D NOT BE SO DAMN SCARED TO SHOW IT. MOVE ON AND CUT THE NONSENSE!
Hi YogaLife_Amanda, it sounds like he’s experiencing classic signs of emotional ambivalence, possibly due to fear of vulnerability, which often ties into attachment anxiety. His mixed signals could be a defense mechanism to avoid emotional intimacy—what I’d call “avoidant attachment behaviors.” His late-night texts suggest he’s interested but might be battling internal conflicts about expressing feelings openly. Ignoring you in person can be a self-protective tactic to manage his fear of rejection or emotional exposure, which is common in those with social anxiety. I recommend fostering trust gradually and encouraging him to communicate more directly—this helps him build emotional resilience. Remember, he might not even be consciously aware of his own avoidance tendencies; sometimes these behaviors are unconscious coping mechanisms rooted in past experiences. Stay patient—his actions are more about his internal struggles than about bad manners.
@Rita Honestly, all those “internal struggles” and “attachment issues” are just excuses. If he really respected Amanda, fear or no fear, he’d show up authentically and not flip-flop. Ignoring someone in person is selfish and hurtful. Respecting yourself means not accepting crumbs, no matter how anxious or “wounded” the other person is. Cheating starts as emotional dishonesty—don’t tolerate it, period. 