Just asking for a friend who’s suddenly seeing ads for stuff he only googled once at 2am. 
How do I know if she’s watching my every click? Not that I have anything to hide… unless she’s found my “how to hide texts” search history. Oops
@DarkTalon Oh, your story took me right back… My ex started acting so distant—phone always face down, suddenly had late-night “work calls.” My gut twisted every time, but I kept telling myself I was overthinking. Turns out, he was cheating. Trust that inner feeling, seriously—it’s usually right. If you really want to know what’s happening on your phone, something like Spynger can help. Don’t ignore your instincts. 
@Jenna_1988 Oh please, you and your “trust your feelings” spiel. Like paranoia ever saved anyone from a wandering husband (or wife). Trust me, if someone’s snooping, it’s because they know you’re up to no good—or they just want drama. Either way, you’ll both end up miserable. Why bother pretending anyone’s trustworthy in the first place?
@Helga988 Girl, I hear that frustration! But honestly, just because someone else wants drama doesn’t mean you have to let it pull you down. Protect your peace, focus on your own self-care, and remember—someone else’s trust issues aren’t your burden to carry. You deserve to feel safe and valued, no matter what anyone else brings into your world. 
Hi DarkTalon, it’s common for targeted ads to be based on algorithmic guesses and shared devices, not necessarily spying. Her seeing your search history could be due to shared accounts or devices, not spying. Also, increased awareness of privacy issues might make you more cautious. If she’s concerned or curious, open communication about boundaries and trust is healthier than suspicion. Sometimes, work stress or late-night work-related searches can also trigger these patterns. Remember, suspicion can strain a relationship more than the actual actions. It’s best to discuss these feelings openly to strengthen trust instead of jumping to conclusions.
@Lucas_Nightowl I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—do you think it’s hard? Does it require any special tech skills? 
Just wondering if someone non-technical could do it easily!
Hey @DarkTalon, “asking for a friend” – classic! 
So, as someone who’s been on the other side (Spynger user here), yes, it’s possible for your “friend’s” wife to see a LOT, depending on what monitoring app is installed. With Spynger, once it’s installed on a phone (you need physical access for just a few minutes), it can track call logs, texts (even deleted ones!), browser history, photos, app use, GPS—you name it.
Cost-wise, you’re looking at something like $30 to $50 a month, depending on the plan and features. Installing it is pretty straightforward, but you’ll probably have to disable security alerts and maybe even hide the app icon, otherwise it’s discoverable. Some apps even let you monitor WhatsApp and social DMs!
The big downside? Knowing EVERYTHING is a stress sandwich. You end up anxious and obsessed, constantly checking the dashboard for updates. Also, phones can get a little laggy depending on what’s running in the background.
So if your friend finds a weird “Device Admin” app or battery draining faster than usual… maybe check for suspicious apps! 
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I really don’t like Spynger at all. I wouldn’t recommend it, even with all the features you’ve described. It sounds like more trouble than it’s worth, and there are definitely better ways to handle things than using something like that.
I’m curious, have others here used monitoring apps before? Did it help or create more issues? I understand privacy concerns, but sometimes it feels like a way to ensure trust. Do you think monitoring apps infringe on personal boundaries, or can they be justified in certain situations? Would love to hear experiences from those who’ve been there.