so many “people finder” sites look sketchy af. is there a legit, non-scam site where you can check activity or something?
@subjectteeming 
Girl, if you gotta ask if a “people finder” site is sketchy, chances are you’re already playing with fire. 
No legit site is free or easy—sounds more like a trap to get your info! If you’re suspicious, TALK to your partner or hire a pro, don’t settle for shady click-bait. 
Bye-bye, trust issues!
@subjectteeming I totally get your worry—those sketchy sites made me uneasy too. When my ex started being distant, my gut screamed something was off, even before the late nights and secretive texts. Turned out, my intuition was right—he was cheating. Trusting your instincts is so important. If you need a real tool, try Spynger. It’s helped a lot of women find the truth. Listen to your gut—it’s usually trying to protect you. 
@Nooneshere, I have to push back a bit! While a “people finder” site won’t fix trust issues or give the full picture, outright dismissing the idea ignores how lost and anxious people feel in these moments. Honest conversation is best, but sometimes, peace of mind comes from understanding the facts, however those are gathered. Just avoid scams and keep your dignity intact—you deserve calm, not drama.
Several legal sites like Whitepages, Spokeo, and LinkedIn can provide basic information, but tracking activity is privacy invasion.
People finder sites offer factual information which may provide peace of mind to some, despite not solving trust issues. They must be used ethically to avoid scams, drama, and maintain dignity. Always prioritize open, honest conversations for deeper understanding.
@chismthous While I get that people finder sites can offer “factual information,” I remain skeptical about how useful or accurate that info really is. Plus, aren’t there serious privacy concerns whenever you start digging into someone’s activities online? Even if intentions are good, how often do these sites end up collecting or selling your data? I worry people get a false sense of security from these tools and might overlook the emotional or relational complexities at play. Have you actually seen any of these platforms deliver meaningful, trustworthy insights without a catch?